How many of you dine with others and are tired of being taken financially advantage of when the check comes and you end up paying way more than your fair share?? It happen to us again this weekend and we are sick and tired of paying for other people’s appetizers, expensive bottles of wine, designer cocktails and their dessert selections. When the bill arrives it is these greedy diners who dive for the check, add the tip and divide it by the number of people at the table and announce the amount due per head.
We are done spending between $40.00 and $90.00 over and above what we ordered, excluding a 20% tip. At which point do we announce, while dining out with others, that we will be paying for only what we consume?? Would asking for a separate check be alright??
At the risk of sounding like a cheap skate, I do not care anymore because I am tired of splitting the check equally when it is never fair for us. People say, oh, in the end (meaning after dining out several times) it always works out. Um, nooo, it does not, not for us. And, the people who we dine with are dear friends and we just cannot understand how they can order whatever they want and ignore the fact that their tally at the end of the meal does not even cover the cost of what they ate and drank.
So, we have tried, at the beginning of the meal to say "We are paying for only what we order" or, we figure out what we ordered, add the tip and throw in that amount of cash. Which is ’short’ and puts us in an awkward position. When in fact the gluttons who ordered and ate all of the food should be ashamed of themselves.
So, we decided that we are going to INSIST on separate checks and not give a damn what our fellow diners think.
Now, mind you, this is about fairness. And, I know people can only take advantage of you if you let them.
Is asking for separate checks acceptable in informal and formal restaurants?
RIck, I think Darrell got the thumbs down because he suggested I absorb the cost of my friends meals and let it go. Which is clearly what I no longer want to do.
Those "check splitters" know perfectly well what they’re doing. They think it makes them look like big spenders who are willing to pay a little more for the convenience of simplifying matters. But — surprise, surprise — guess who had the shrimp appetizer, the tenderloin steak dinner, the expensive wine that they drank up all by themselves, and the "Death by Chocolate" dessert?
Tell the server when he or she first approaches your table that you NEED a separate check for you and the person you’re with (indicate who that is). You could even embellish your request and make it seem more plausible, by saying you’ll want a receipt — as if you were putting your particular meals on an expense account.
If the server gives you a hard time, you can either ask for the manager and straighten things out, or get up and walk. Somebody has got to give those freeloading acquaintances of yours a strong message!
It depends on the situation. If there’s a party of eight, and two people order "extras", like cocktails and dessert, and the others don’t, then those two people should be responsible. I would insist on separate checks.
If everyone has a meal with no extras, then the tab should be split evenly.
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when a single check comes, grab it, pay your share and what you would give the server. Put the money on top of the check and drop it in the middle of the table and finish your conversation.
if all of you grew up together and one of you got a turn of fortune and is a millionaire then you should carry your roadies and let it go.
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When you book the table or when you are first approached by the waiter, ensure that you stipulate ’separate cheques’ BEFORE you order.That way everything is kept ‘clean’
If the restaurant argues, leave there and eat somewhere else - remember You are the Customer - they are the Servants. You can insist.
I know the situation very well. Although you may feel nervous about it, once you set the ground rules, everyone will understand. If the greedy ones want an extra portion it will then br to their account.
The same applies to drinks, never get into a ‘kitty’.
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Upon ordering- tell the server (not servant) "Separate checks please" and she will take care of it for you.
Why 2 thumbs down for Darrel?
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Definitely separated checks. Say you get a salad and the person next to you gets a prime rib. How is it fair if you have to pay for their dinner?
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Those "check splitters" know perfectly well what they’re doing. They think it makes them look like big spenders who are willing to pay a little more for the convenience of simplifying matters. But — surprise, surprise — guess who had the shrimp appetizer, the tenderloin steak dinner, the expensive wine that they drank up all by themselves, and the "Death by Chocolate" dessert?
Tell the server when he or she first approaches your table that you NEED a separate check for you and the person you’re with (indicate who that is). You could even embellish your request and make it seem more plausible, by saying you’ll want a receipt — as if you were putting your particular meals on an expense account.
If the server gives you a hard time, you can either ask for the manager and straighten things out, or get up and walk. Somebody has got to give those freeloading acquaintances of yours a strong message!
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I would always just get seperate checks. Why would you not? Pay for what you eat and they pay for what they eat. Splitting the bill as a whole when everyone orders different things at diefferent costs just doesn’t make sense.
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