It was a dinner date a couple of months ago that my girlfriend and I are still arguing over. It has been a topic of discussion with our relationship counselor. Since then, my GF has a selected memory of what happened and how it was resolved. Now I think I need to bring it up again.
We went out to dinner with ten people. The ten consisted of four couples and two single women who were staying as guests at one of the couple’s homes.
The bill came to just over $1,000. That’s right, one thousand dollars for dinner, averaging at $100 per person.
"I was hoping that you might treat for all of us," my girlfriend said to me. "But seeing as you count pennies it didn’t surprise me when you said nothing."
I do not mind taking my GF out to dinner, but I am not a millionaire and I cannot afford to take all of her friends out for a cost of a thousand dollar dinner.
One of the couples had two female guests staying at their home. But instead of splitting the bill between them and their guests, and a seperate bill for the other three couples, the couple that had hosted the two girls at their home decided that "the gentlemen will treat the ladies." And so the bill of ten people was divided up among the four guys.
I have four credit cards and I don’t remember which one of the cards I put my share of that dinner bill on. I remember being charged $250 for my share of the bill and my girlfriend disputes it.
When we go out on our own, she will often offer to treat or pay for half the bill. I have accepted her offers and I thought that was fine.
But when we got into an argument about the thousand dollar dinner bill, she added "most women would not put up with having to pay for dinners with you. I was just being nice because it sounds like you really can’t afford to date anyone right now."
Instead of going to a fast food place or casual dining, my GF and her friends like to go to places where the waiter pours wine like water throughout the course of dinner.
Lastly, the women that were treated are registered nurses that make over $90K a year in salaries. So two people with combined incomes of over $180K were treated because of their gender. One guy is a public school teacher who makes about $23K, the other guy is a commercial painter who makes $25, the other guy is a medical technician who makes $40, and I made about $20K last year trying to start up my own business.
I think a lot of these rules were written back when women did not work and lived with their fathers. Today, many women earn more money than men and more men have been laid off from work than women in the current recession. If women are more gainfully employed today and demand to be paid as much as men, then they should start accepting the responsibility of their new found income.
If you resent being treated like a child, then do not expect to be supported like one.
If you want the respect that comes with being a working adult, you are expected to pay your fair share as a working adult.
If the couple that hosted the two women at their home didn’t want the $90K a year RNs to pay for their own dinner and booze, then they should have had the waiter issue them a seperate check treating their own guests and not expect the entire group to pay for a bunch of moochers in skirts.

im going to be honest that i only read half of it because that is a very long story.

sorry about that

but here is what i think, no person should be expect to pay a bill for a group meal expet parents with children but they do not count in this situation. when i go out with my boyfriend i want to pay, i like to feel independent and this is how i do it, some girls arent like this my friend makes her boyfriend pay for everything and i think its awful, but anyway even when i go out with my friends i do want him to pay for me, though i personally would never say, this is because it makes me the envy of all my friends because i have a caring boyfriend, and please tell me you understand the laws of boyfriends wars because evert girl plays it if she admits is or not.

its my personal belief that each person should pay for what they eat, i do not do spilting equally so i would definatly have agreed to this, always sort out payment issues before eating so at the end you know what to expect.

and finally do not let a fight spoil your relationship

I am going to Orlando, Florida with a group of other military wives and our children. We would love to attend a dinner theater when we get there but we have gotten mixed reviews. Which dinner theater do you recommend and which ones do you advise us NOT to go to? Thanks for your help!

I probably have been to most of the dinner shows in the Orlando area. I would not say they are all BAD, but I do think there are better ways to spend your money. The bill for 4 adults ar Medieval times (without extras) was almost $300. Just maybe so-so dinner and pretty good show. Maybe at half the price it would be worthwhile. Some consider all these places as tourist traps, Could be?

Thank you

Read picture story books together, play with teddies e.g. tea party, make sick teddies better, put teddies to bed, go for a walk, sing songs/nursery rhymes, have a snack together, make a cubby house with a rug and pillows and using the furniture. Good luck.

I’m doing it for my birthday, and I was wondering if it’s like something your supposed to dress formally for. Like dress up nicely. It’s in Sacramento on the Delta King.

Dressing presentable will be appropriate especially
when it’s your birthday. You would want to stand
out, wouldn’t you?

Happy Birthday! Have fun!

I am the new manager of a restaurant and the reviews about us on websites are terrible. Is there a way to delete the reviews and start all over. They are mainly on citysearch and yellowpages. When people google the website to get our information, the bad reviews are the first thing they see. Please help!!

The odds of getting negative reviews removed is pretty close to zero.. That’s the point of review sites, people get to say what they want and the business owner can’t control the conversation..

Were the negative reviews valid complaints? If so, have you addressed the reasons for the negatives? If yes, then a simple reply to the review apologizing for the issue and an explanation of what has been done to resolve the issue going forward is the best thing you can do..

Hi everyone,
I noticed that people on Facebook are always posting reviews on restaurants. The are very diligent and do reviews several times a day . Do they get paid from yelp or points ??? I don’t understand why they are constantly doing reviews. Have a great 4th! Thanks, ruthie

I review on Yelp for the same reason I answer questions on Yahoo. I like helping people. Plus I read Yelp reviews before trying somewhere new, so I should give back.

… She’s 22 months

Could you hook up a garden sprinkler for her to play in?

Also, try giving her a large paint brush and a container of water for her to "paint" the concrete, fence, walls, etc. in the garden. Toddlers love painting with water and watching it dry.

Large sponges soaked in water are also fun.

Let her play with ice cubes for a new sensory experience, but supervise to ensure that they don’t go in her mouth after they have been on the ground.

Fill a dish tub or other shallow container with water and provide a basket of toys that float, cups for scooping, funnels, spoons or a whisk for stirring, and other fun toys. Let her play with these in an area where a little splashing won’t hurt.

Fill a bucket with water and have her help you "wash" her outdoor toys. If you want to use soap, mix a tear-free kid’s shampoo with water. This will be mild enough to not irritate her skin or eyes.

Try a cool bathtub playtime after getting hot outdoors.

Or, stay inside and play. Here are some ways to "get the wiggles out" when you can’t go outside:
Make a fort or secret hideout by draping a sheet or blanket over a table.
Make some homemade playdough to roll and pound.
Make a target game, tossing rolled socks into a laundry basket.
Dance together to music.
Give her a large cardboard box to color on with crayons, play in, crawl through, etc.

My pediatrician suggested benadryl. I think I need to find a new pediatrician.

Anyway, he is 17 months. Hes very fussy when he can’t run around and explore. What things can I bring on a plane or do to make this easier? Its an evening flight, hopefully he takes a nap!

pack a special little backpack with small new items that you can give him every 15 minutes to hold his attention and keep him busy…. try easy to peel off felt stickers and a notebook to stick them to, Crayola’s magic paper with the special markers (no mess), a small toy airplane that looks like the one you’re on, a new toy like a sesame street doll or whatever he is into, etc. Also, be sure to bring some special snacks…. fruit snacks or roll-ups, his favorite crackers or even a cookie or two. This isn’t the time to be overly picky about the food- you just want him entertained and quiet for the flight, right?! And although I don’t usually condone medicating for non-medical reasons, one little dose of Benadryl if he can’t calm down will not hurt him. Your fellow passengers will thank you and you can have an enjoyable flight, too! Have a great trip!

I`m trying to eat here Hello !!

I find it most annoying because they usually ask when I’ve a mouthful of food.

I think it’s a great sport but I just find it boring…any tips on how I can find it entertaining?

If you watch teams like Barcelona, Chelsea, Manchester United… the fast passing, the way they play is fantastic.They’re shots and the way they work to the goal. Concentrate on that too.

Brazil sizzling samba football is just brilliant. They have this skill that no one else has. Great turns and stepping.

Watch teams like Spain, Germany and Japan. Germany especially because you don’t know how they get to their end of the goal and score.